by Sherese Danielle Ezelle, LMHC, LCPC, NCC
Director, Behavioral Health Integration
As the holiday season approaches, workplaces often become filled with festive decorations, cheerful greetings, and celebrations. However, it’s important to recognize that not everyone shares the same holiday traditions, beliefs, or even the desire to celebrate. For many, this season can be a reminder of personal experiences, cultural differences, or even feelings of isolation.
To foster an inclusive atmosphere, here are five thoughtful approaches to engaging with colleagues during the holidays:
Start with open-ended questions
Instead of making assumptions about someone’s holiday plans, begin conversations with neutral, open-ended questions. This approach allows individuals to share what they feel comfortable discussing, whether it involves holiday celebrations or their own unique experiences.
Example: “Do you have any plans for the upcoming break?”
This question provides a platform for your colleague to share anything from family gatherings to personal projects or even a restful staycation. It signals your interest without imposing expectations or assumptions.
Respect personal preferences and boundaries
If a colleague indicates they don’t participate in holiday traditions, it’s crucial to respect their choice and steer the conversation toward topics they are comfortable discussing. This shows that you value their individuality and are open to learning about their preferences.
Example: “I completely understand. Is there anything you’re looking forward to during this time? Perhaps a chance to catch up on some reading or a favorite hobby?”
This way, you acknowledge their feelings while inviting them to share something that brings them joy, fostering a connection beyond the holidays.
Share about your own experiences thoughtfully
In conversations, sharing your own holiday experiences can create a sense of camaraderie. However, it’s important to do this in a way that doesn’t overshadow your colleague's feelings or traditions.
Example: “I’m excited to spend time with my family over the holidays, but I’m also curious to hear what you enjoy about this time of year.”
This approach allows you to express your excitement while showing genuine interest in their perspective. It creates a balanced dialogue that invites them to contribute without pressure.
Acknowledge and appreciate workplace diversity
Recognizing the diversity within your workplace can help create a more inclusive environment.
Acknowledging that different colleagues may have varying traditions or practices reinforces the value of those differences.
Example: “I love how our team brings together so many different backgrounds and traditions. It’s fascinating to learn about the various ways people celebrate, or choose not to celebrate, during this season.”
By framing the conversation this way, you promote a culture of inclusion and respect, encouraging others to share their experiences if they wish.
Avoid assumptions and stereotypes
One of the most crucial aspects of respectful communication is avoiding assumptions about someone's beliefs or practices based on their appearance, background, or ethnicity. Everyone’s experiences are unique, and it’s essential to approach conversations with an open mind.
Example: “If you’re comfortable sharing, I’d love to learn about any traditions or routines that are meaningful to you during this time of year.”
This phrasing invites dialogue and expresses a genuine interest in their personal experiences, free from any preconceived notions.
Navigating holiday conversations in a diverse workplace requires sensitivity and respect. By approaching discussions with curiosity and openness, you can create a supportive environment where all colleagues feel valued and included. Remember, the key is to listen actively and engage with empathy, fostering connections that transcend individual differences and celebrate the richness of diversity during the holiday season and beyond!